This might be my favorite episode yet.
Mostly, because I’m concerned!
Yes, concerned.
The casual tossing away of legal documents that are beyond important is very concerning to me. Because despite anything and everything, Johnny could have claim to the turkey baster baby, not the IVF baby.
An IVF clinic will do all the things to help you legally secure yours and your baby’s future from possible issues down the line.
And I’m not even talking about just issues with Johnny.
Nat can trust Johnny all she wants, which does pose problems, but outside of that. Because Johnny might be the perfect donor.
He might want nothing to do with the baby.
No legal rights to it.
Not to be the father or involved in any parent type way. Forever.
He might be perfect, but the world is decidedly not perfect.
Some places, some countries, some people will try to claim that Johnny is the father regardless of whose name ends up on the birth certificate.
There are literally dozens upon dozens of people who have had to adopt their own children just to be sure they will be recognized as a legal parent. Whether by schools, states, hospitals, counties, and so on.
The world will see one thing.
No matter how idyllic things appear to you, the world is not a safe place.
Especially for same sex couples.
As much as we might wish it is, hope for it to be, and try with everything we have to demand equality – the world is not there yet.
In some countries, it’s still illegal to be gay.
In others, it’s just not allowed for them to be married.
Or adopt children.
Or have children together.
In some countries, the little rights we do have are being threatened by the atmosphere around us. Nothing is permanent.
And to take such things for granted is ridiculous to me.
To be so callous as to say everything will be fine because Johnny is the donor is wild to me. He may be your friend. He may never try to lay claim to your child. But that doesn’t mean the world won’t just assign him one anyway.
It’s naive and foolish to believe the world is peachy enough for you to think such things.
I want to live in a world where signing the birth certificate is the end all be all.
That you’d be the child’s parent without anyone to contest it.
Just like any straight couple would be granted.
Except we aren’t.
Not yet. Not now. And to think you can so casually toss aside legal documents made not only to protect you, but your child, and even Johnny is absurd.
I would do everything in my power to make sure that child is mine. In everyone’s eyes.
I’d sign every line, talk to every lawyer, and be a thousand percent sure. Because the last thing I want is to get a call from the school saying my child had to be sent to the ER for a broken arm and I can’t see him because of some stupid paperwork. That’s not the time to worry.
It’s now.
Before they’re born.
Do your homework.
Protect your family.
It’s important.
Especially, right now in this world. Nothing is forever.
And I hate it. I wish it wasn’t like that. And I’ll keep fighting for a world where it isn’t like that. But until then, protect yourselves.
Which I love this storyline because I don’t think this gets talked about enough and I’m excited to see more of it. I want more. I hope this isn’t the end of this legal conversation. Because those talks are important.
So is asking your partner if they want to be married or not.
Like…?
I feel like this is a plot that gets used a lot for gays but also in general where you’re with someone for multiple years but don’t know this about them. Or that they want kids or something. I feel like those are important details.
Just to see if you’re fundamentally compatible.
And I get that Nat may never have asked given she didn’t think she would want it, but if there was a chance you might, it needed to be talked about.
Not talking about has always been weird to me.
Even as a novice in romantic relationships, this is something I’ve already asked about in my romantic relationship or while I was on dating apps. Because it’s a dealbreaker for a lot of people.
Including myself, and having put it into practice – even weirder that people don’t talk about this shit.
Also Lily, did you not realize that having babies means every conversation will be about them now? Or that they’ll be screaming? Or that you have like one bathroom before you all agreed to this?
I love how people never think this shit through and I’m over here overthinking everything.
Maybe that’s why I need to know if you want kids or to be married up front.
The conversation at the beginning about the confusing cake. It was.
I wouldn’t know what to do with it either. This isn’t something that occurs every day. I would have gone with the two cakes as well.
I also agree with the dad for putting the paperwork together.
I totally understand the jealousy feeling.
The proposal moment was terrifying. Because I thought she was going to do something stupid. I also loved that while watching this with my girlfriend, I asked what she thought about proposal, and I was promptly informed that public is bad.
So, yeah.
I do too.
It’s awkward and everyone has to be expecting you to say yes.
Like do people really want to see an awkward no?
No. They don’t.
I don’t either.
Please stop proposing in public in general. Thank you.
Welp, onto the next episode! Hope it keeps getting better and better!
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